Anger is a normal emotion but for many people how they experience anger and how they express it can become a problem.
Anger is an emotion that can range from mild annoyance to intense rage. It is a feeling that is accompanied by biological changes in your body. When you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure rise and stress hormones are released. This can cause you to shake, become hot and sweaty and feel out of control.
Anger is often associated with frustration – things don’t always happen the way we want and people don’t always behave the way we think they should. Anger is usually linked with other negative emotions or is a response to them. You may be feeling hurt, frightened, disappointed, worried, embarrassed or frustrated, but may express these sorts of feelings as anger. Anger can also result from misunderstandings or poor communication between people.
Anger becomes a problem when it creates trouble for you with other people, your work, your health, day-to-day living or the law. Anger is also a problem when other people around you are frightened, hurt or feel they cannot talk to you or disagree with you in case you become angry.
If anger is causing some problems in your life there are many things that can help to manage and express it more appropriately and to make life easier for you and people around you.
I have worked with many people who have had problems with their anger and seen the significant and positive changes that occur when they understand it better and learn how to manage it more effectively. We can’t always avoid the things or people in life that annoy or frustrate us but by learning how to change our reaction to them we regain control of our life again.
Anger can be so stressful and exhausting so why not take a step towards becoming a calmer and happier person by calling today to find out more about anger management.
Laurie Brotherstone, Psychologist